Raising kids is hard! Since becoming a parent I walk a fine line between being my kids father and their friend. No matter what I them to know that I love them no matter what, that I am thankful for all that they do and they are wonderful, talented individuals.
However, in the hustle and bustle of life I forget to tell them these things. I spend so much time getting them to activities, correcting behavior, and just making it through day-to-day life that some of the more important messages get lost.
So if you are like me I would like to remind you of 5 things you can tell your kids today to encourage them and to remind them that they are special.
The best way to tell them these things is face to face, but perhaps you might want to text them these messages or send them an email to remind them how wonderful they are.
- You’re an incredible young man/young lady. I am honored to be your (mom/dad). There are so many times that our kids hear that they are not good enough. Tell your kids they are good enough!! They are constantly competing for good grades at school, for positions on sports teams, for parts in musicals and so many other competitions. They hear the message over and over again that they are not good enough, talented enough or smart enough. They need to hear from the most important people in their life that they are loved and that they are incredible.
- I love you, no matter what. Our kids make mistakes. Sometimes big ones. They need to know that no matter what happens in their life their parents are going to love them. When they are bullied at school because of the way that they look, what they are involved in or their sexuality, they need a safe place to go too and that place needs to be their home. Tell your kids that you love them no matter what today!
- Thinking of you and thanking God for you and our family. It is nice to know that someone is thinking of you. In the middle of the day send a text to your kids and let them know that you are thinking of them, praying for them and hoping that they are having a wonderful day. This encouragement might cause them to roll their eyes at first. However, I think it also warms their heart to know that someone is thinking about them.
- If you ever need a listening ear, I’m here for you. Because of all the pressures of life, with all the ups and downs that our kids experience they have a lot on their mind. They need someone to talk with, a kind ear to listen to their worries, fears, sadness, and anxiety. So many times that is a friend and that friend does not always give the best advice. Imagine your child coming to you with all their problems. Imagine them asking you what they should do in a situation and you are there to give them good advice. Tell your kids that they can come to you for anything! That would make a world of a difference in your child’s life.
- I’m amazed at how talented you are. What a great gift that God has given you. No matter what my kids are doing, how well or not they do it I tell them that they are doing a great job and that they have some talent. Especially as they develop their gifts it will become clearer and clearer where their true talents are. Until then to tell them that God has blessed them with gifts and talents is an important thing.
These messages are not only for a parent/child relationship. You can say these things if you are a grandparent, teacher, pastor or some other important adult in a child’s life. Children need to hear these messages from us to know that they are loved, cared for and to build the self-confidence to do great things and to live their best life.