With Father’s Day coming quickly upon us I want to put a challenge out there for my fellow fathers. As many of you know I am deeply connect with the digital world. I keep my life on my iPhone, I have opened myself completely to the services of Google and I spend countless hours writing and working on my laptop.
On a recently blog post from Phil Cooke he writes that
*65% of North Americans spend more time with their computer than with their spouse.
**45% of workers say they can’t go more than 15 minutes without an interruption.
**50% of people leave their mobile phones on when they go to bed.
Phil is putting out a challenge to fathers. He is calling it to Disconnect to Reconnect. He shares:
Mobile devices, computers and social media are wonderful things, indeed. They’ve transformed our lives and our world in countless positive ways. But make no mistake, while we’re more connected than ever (and maybe because we’re more “connected” than ever), we’re more disconnected than ever from our families.
I know that I have to be very purposeful to stay off my phone and off the computer while I am at home with my family. My time with my kids is email free. But I know I can do a better job at disconnecting when I am at home. The world that we live in we need to be connected via the internet — we have to be intentional about the communities that we are gathering and growing. However, our call to community does not overtake our call to our families. Now here is the challenge. Father’s out there, tell your children and your wives that they are important, don’t only tell them with your words, show them with your actions. On this father’s day disconnect yourself from the world. Stop checking your email, don’t write that needed blog post. Take care what you need too today and then spend the day with your family tomorrow.
Here are some tips from Phil:
1. Before going to bed the night before Father’s Day, check your e-mail one final time, turn off your mobile device and put it in another room. You may get the shakes, but you’ll get over it.
2. Plan the day well. Alcoholics are very susceptible during periods of boredom and it’s no different with an internet junkie. Plan a day of special activities with your family, so you’ll be less inclined/tempted to check email or go online. And, if the family takes you out, leave the mobile device at home! (You may be shocked, but yes – there was a time in ancient days when we actually left the house without a phone).
Remember – your kids watch your behavior more than they listen to your words. And when they see you unable to disconnect from email, text messages and Twitter? You’re telling them that what’s on your phone is more important to you than they are.
So, think about how much time you spend online versus how much time you spend face-to-face with the people you love you the most. And, at the very least, for 24 hours on Father’s Day, think about which connection is the most important to you.
Are you planning on disconnecting? If so, leave a comment on how you plan on disconnecting.