One of the most remarkable attributes of human beings is our ability to “come back” after a loss or failure. When we experience a loss or failure in our lives we most likely don’t want to try to pull ourselves up and try again, However, we have the ability to pick ourselves up, and find the resources to complete any task which faces us in our lives. We can look at a defeat as a new opportunity, a chance to grow and learn, and see the world as “new again.” However, if we aren’t challenged with defeat on occasion, we can forget how to be resilient.
So how do we do it? How do we start our comebacks?
Well the first thing is to find people to lean on. Find someone with whom you can rely on when you are down. They can listen to you complain, offer a shoulder for you to cry upon and comfort you in your loss and pray with you and for you so you can put your hurt and pain into God’s hands.
Another thing you can do is to think about the times when you have done really well in your life. It doesn’t matter when they happened in your life, but think about the times which you succeeded and remember how that felt. I don’t know about you but I love winning — I love the feeling of winning, I love the confidence I recieve after I do something really, really well, and I believe that the thought and the feeling of reliving some of our successes will only help us recover from a loss or failure.
After that start to plan your comeback. What did you learn from your loss? What are you going to do differently? What actually worked?
There are so many people in the world who have failed over and over again but they did not give up, they did not quit and eventually they succeeded.
During the Grammys this year, there was a medley of performances from Rihanna, Eminem, Dr. Dre, and Skylar Grey. I have to admit I love the song “Love the way you lie” and despite the vulgarity of Eminem I think he is a genius at writing lyrics and performing.
From what I know about Rihanna, Eminem and Dr. Dre — you could call this performance a comback. Rihanna has a history of being in an abusive relationship, Eminem has had a history of drug abuse and Dr. Dre has had his own inner deamons to battle.
I thought it was really neat to hear Skylar’s refrain “I need a doctor” being sung over and over again and the other three who have needed doctors to come out and sing/rap and claiming their comeback.
Have you ever experienced a comeback in your life?
How do you overcome difficulties in your life?